Not everyones first love is another person.
The most crass, and over kill of all days has to be Valentines Day. It makes a lot of people acutely aware of how not in a relationship they are. The sad fact of the matter is, that most of these so called ‘in love’ people are there because they are afraid. To ‘fill’ a gap that is missing.
A number of years ago I was that person, but certain events conspired to give me a different way. Failing health, toxic relationships, and a fear of being alone all drove me to be a person I didn’t know. I decided to change all that.
So I’m one of those weird people that enjoy their own company. I have lots of friends, but not actually involved with anyone, and it’s the way I like it.
Where I learnt this was travelling. I’ve always wanted to explore the world, but like many others I didn’t want to do it on my own. That changed in 2009. After a terrible trip to Paris with ‘friends’, I decided to start going on my own.
What a revelation it was. I was no longer trapped to other peoples wims, and timetables. I could do what I wanted. If I wanted to explore the streets at 2am I could do it. If I wanted to lay in bed all day and watch Netflix and order room service I didn’t have to check with anymore. The best of all, I could go where I wanted, and without checking on other peoples schedules.
This was the freedom I had always wanted. It created a very important change in me. - Made me realise I didn’t need someone to complete me. - Solo Travel can be what ever you want it to be. - Solo Travel with give you an experience of the world that you didn’t know that you needed.
So on this Valentines Day, I’m going to be celebrating. I’m celebrating to getting to know me, and the Solo Travel that enabled it all.